Afterwards we would say there is nothing like free will - it does not exist, because we cannot and will not (and should not) exert ourselves.
When I look at two dedicated and even trained dancers, I get no feeling of the one prevailing over the other or shoving the other party around - in fact - one gets the notion of a very special form of free will, cooperation, harmony and unity of form and function, that it becomes impossible to say who shoves whom around.
If we are only in the relationships for the physical satisfaction, one misses the whole object of the exercise, where almost imperceptible nuances of style, emotion, feeling, sight and sound takes us to new levels of experience and satisfication.
We need to stay on the dance floor and concentrate on the music, in this case the wonderful melody of life itself.
Let us then surrender ourselves in this relationship - if we think it worthwhile, so that we can taste the fruits of it on other levels.
And, what if we are the ones who shove someone around this dance floor? Shame on us, because we have not learnt the basic tenet of free will, love and understanding. With our role of leading man/lady in this dance, comes the responsibility to maximise the enjoyment of our partner and not of ourselves, because our own enjoyment is really seated in the fullness of the enjoyment of our partner, similar to the situaiton where we cannot alone enjoy beauty - we need someone to enjoy it with us. Let us then be even more sensitive to our actions and keep it to the toned down nuances resting in a touch or a look.